My Marriage Proposal to my Wife in Legal Form

I just stumble upon this proposal of mine. Well this is long but if you are serious in entering, this should be the standard in wedding proposal more or less.. enjoy reading... 

MY PROPOSAL

By : Robert Earl N. Guanco

Submitted to:

Ms. Isaeli G. Luis

TABLE OF CONTENT

I.       Introduction                                                                        - 3

II.      Intentions                                                                            - 4

III.    Life Goals                                                                            - 4

IV.    Sustainability                                                                       - 5

V.      Financial                                                                              - 6

VI.    Spiritual Needs                                                                    - 7

VII.   Family Plans                                                                       - 8

VIII.  Problem and Solution                                                        - 9

IX.    Vow                                                                                       - 10

I.                  INTRODUCTION

I am Mr. Robert Earl Nobong Guanco, the sole purpose of this writing is to show you  Ms. Isaeli Guindayan Luis my personal plans and goal in the future if given a once in a lifetime chance not only to be your boyfriend but to be your partner in the near future.

Let this be clear and put into words that I don’t have any capacity to see the future nor I can be certain of what is ahead, but I only have plans and I strongly rely upon the guidance and help of my God.

This is to establish my clear and clean intention and motives to Ms. Luis that I don’t have any sort of ill will towards you but only happiness I can offer.

This writings covered different areas to which I think are important for you to know, I will try my hardest that whatever is written beyond this point I will do it.

From the preaching of God that He uses Pastor Danny Aurellano that very Sabbath day, He stated that all of Christian men who would like to woo or court any Christian woman should submit their written plans and his goals, it will put the mind of that woman at ease because that man has a goal or direction to which they will go together and support his plans. Love without plans or insight in the future is like walking blindly together.

To make it clear also, I don’t want to walk the path dragging you behind or forcefully drag you to any direction, it is much more better to walk together side by side while holding each other’s hands. I don’t consider myself higher than you do or compete in any situation in your life but what I want is someone who supports me and I am to you also. Loyalty, respect, understanding, patient and all godly qualities we may show together to have a decent, peaceful and blissful relationship.

II.        INTENTIONS           

            I pray to God that He may give you to me and take care of you. It is my duty and responsibility if given a chance by your approval to take care of you in every important aspect of your life. My intention is to be your boyfriend and hoping to be your future partner in life if God willing. I don’t have any plans or inflict any harm against you for it is a violation in any moral values and Christian teachings. If God looks at you as special and very important I will also do.

            I cannot promise you heaven but within my capacity, mental and emotional to somehow give you as near as paradise with your help and participation also.

III.       LIFE GOALS          

            It is my strong desire to establish a Christian family to where a family is Christ centered who live in Christian teachings and principles, I want to raise up a relationship who relies and trust our God in any areas of our relationship. I want a close knit family who supports each other, build up each other and children who serves our God.

            To break down my life goals in every areas of my participation as of follows:

1.            Boyfriend       - It starts from here, my goal is to be your helping hands in times when you need physical, emotional and spiritual help. To protect you against people including me and even from yourself even if hurts you sometimes. I like to be the first person to whom you can count for as possible as I can. My goal is to be your boyfriend to nurture and take care of your welfare to understand you and not to criticize in moral ways. My goal also is to develop an environment to further enhance your potentials in any part of your life in accordance in Christian teaching, you have my support I’ll be your number 1 fan. It is my desire to have a loving relationship with you. My goal is to be your last boyfriend.

2.            Husband         - As a husband my goal is to secure the welfare of my wife to treat you well in accordance of Biblical teaching as a husband. To love you not only in your good side but also to accept your weakness and be the second of your strength for God is the first. To do my obligation as a husband in every areas of our relationship. To stay loyal, honest, and protective, to lead with humility, courageous, a good provider as possible as I can, spiritual leader and a loving husband. My goal is to be the best husband.

3.            Father             - My goal as a father is to have at least 2 to 3 healthy children. To guide my children in this crazy world in the ways of God intended for every Christian family. To be a leader as example for them, to nurture them to grow as a good children up to the end of my breath. To be with my children physically as possible as I can and not to neglect there needs in every areas of their growing life, to treat them equally with unconditional love and discipline. My goal is to be the best father.

4.            Son in law      - Your mother will be my mother, my goal is to show respect and love to her the way you love her also. To support your mother in any possible way as I can, my goal is to treat her well the same as I treat my biological mother. My goal is to be a best and understanding Son in law.

5.            Brother in law – whatever your decision and request in regarding to your brothers you have my full support. My goal is to have a good relationship with your brothers to understand them at makisama. My Goal is to be a good brother in law.

IV.       SUSTAINABILITY

                        3 Categories as of follows:

1.      Physical Sustainability – it is my duty to watch over your physical health, to be your extra pair of hands and feet. When your physical strength will fail you I’ll be there I’ll do my best to be there even if you reject me. If it is needed to give a part of me even a piece of my internal organ I will give without question.

2.      Emotional Sustainability – I cannot promise you that I will not hurt you because it is impossible but one thing I can assure you is ill be very careful not to hurt you and protect you against myself. It is my duty to see that you are emotionally stable. There will be times that I cannot understand you or you don’t understand yourself emotionally rest assured that I’ll be at your side whatever happens.

3.      Spiritual Sustainability – It is very important that you and I will always be in the service of God and in His house, to stay firm and strong in faith in good times and bad times together. We shall not depart from God to sustain our spiritual life.

V.        FINANCIAL

                        As possible as I can with my strength through mercy and grace of our God I will be the second provider of your needs for God is the first provider for us, I will also consider your wants if it is useful and beneficial.

a.       I give you the freedom if you want to work or not to support the needs of our family.

b.      Whatever is mine is yours and whatever is yours is mine also.

c.       Our family must learn to save.

d.      Financial should not control us but it is us who control the financial.

e.       We should have a concrete plans regarding financial and ready to change strategy if allows to.

f.       If we are both working we must tithe first to where we are spiritually eating.

g.      After Tithing, if we are earning separately (working differently) we should have at least 25% each for our personal allowance, you and I have the freedom to where you will use it. If only one is working we are entitled to have at least 20% or depend in our peaceful negotiation.

h.      If one is working (you or me) will automatically tithe first from your salary and the other one will tithe base on your allowance. (if not clear just ask me)

i.        The remaining 80 or 75% will go to savings for daily and future needs.

j.        This are the coverage of the savings is stated as follows:

1.      Basic needs of our family. (It is your duty to evaluate the basic needs of the family)

2.      Savings in case of emergency or future needs arises.

3.      Education of the Children (effective immediately with or without children yet)

4.      Necessary projects (e.g. land, house, business and any productive things that can show productivity)           

5.      Family Health (insurance, medication, hospitalization and etc…)

6.      1^st degree Family help concerns (Mother, Father, Mother in law, Sister, Brothers, Brother in laws, Grandfather and Grandmother)

7.      Miscellaneous (agreed by you and me to where it will be used)

k.      Breakdown on savings and its percentage allocation.

1.      Basic needs of our family = (___%) (Base on your assessment).

2.      Savings in case of emergency or future needs arises = 20% no children yet, 15% when there are children already.

3.      Education of the Children = 10% no children yet, 20% when there are children already.

4.      Necessary projects = 10%

5.      Family Health = 15%

6.      1^st degree Family help concerns = 5 – 10%

7.      Miscellaneous =  5 – 10%

l.        Whatever is left in the Miscellaneous after 5 years will automatically be added to the Savings in case of emergency or future needs arises and start all over again.

m.    The percentage distribution can be change depending on the current situation as long as it is agreed by you and me in peaceful negotiation.

n.      It is our duty to teach our children to save from early age.

o.      All of this will automatically starts after the wedding up to the last of our capacity to generate an earning.

p.      All this budgeting and safe keeping will be automatically in your care.

q.      If during the time that we are still not in relationship and you or I have already a personal savings, it will not be counted, this financial agreement is applicable during the start of our relationship. But it doesn’t mean that we will not share for each other, it’s up to our respective decision.

r.        If there are Bonuses or overtime pay 40% will be automatically be given to Family savings and the remaining 60% will be for ourselves. But it doesn’t mean that we will not share for each other, it’s up to our respective decision through peaceful negotiation.

s.       If argument or heated argument arises in financial or other areas SEPERATION IS NOT AN OPTION I repeat again SEPERATION IS NOT AN OPTION!. It will be dealt through peaceful negotiation.

t.        Everything stated above can be amended with the proper agreement.

u.      If there will be business we should draft a financial outline on how to properly manage it and how to distribute it accordingly.

v.      In all circumstances we must put God first for we don’t have the capacity to earn our living but through the mercy and grace of our God.

VI.       SPIRITUAL NEEDS

            We are born through God in His church PJWM, therefor with all our capacity we will remain in His church. His vision and mission will be our vision and mission also, there will be no argument pertaining to God’s vision and mission and we must involve ourselves in it. Our goal is to go together with our family in entering God’s Kingdom full of hope someday.

            Let us always remember how God called and change us and bind us together therefor there will be no reason that we will depart from it. If one will fell weak the other should be his/her strength as what the Bible teachings are. We will not leave each other but uphold with loving kindness. We should support each other’s calling and as possible as it is we should be together and not be separated through thick and thin we will serve God.

            We should watch each other, strengthen each other spiritually and if rebuke will arise let us accept it and deal with it. We must put into great importance the spiritual needs of each other.

            If it’s God’s will that we will be temporarily separated due to mission or work, we must REMAIN FAITHFUL at all cost. We will do our best with prayers that we must be together again.

            Let us be wise enough to balance our Family needs and Spiritual needs, before casting our decision we must ask God first through Prayer and Fasting if necessary. It is our duty to see the growth of each other and the children spiritually.

VII.     FAMILY PLANS    

            We must base and plan our family in accordance of Biblical principle. It will be participated by all members of the family. I may be the father of the household but your voice is very important also, this is not dictatorship but a relationship supporting each other. All family plans should be prayed over so that the guidance of God will be with our family plans. It is a must to have a bible study in our household.

            As what stated before I desire 2 to 3 children and your participation is very badly needed (do not laugh please). If deciding where to live we will go the place God wants us to live, God will direct us to where we will be. There will be no hard feelings for each other but value each other opinion and decision regarding the welfare of the family.

As what you requested that I may answer this question What will I be after 5 years? After 10 years? Below is my answer.

After 5 years:

            Ill be happily married to you, blessed by God with 2 children a son and daughter. I see myself as a loving husband and a kind father. Guiding our children in God’s ways. We are together serving the Lord. We learned to be contented in whatever we have. There are times that we will misunderstood each other but we make sure that pride will not envelop our emotions. There will be struggles from the beginning but we pass through it with flying colors. I’m still sweet towards you but you still find it corny, but deep inside you, you are happy and blissful. We  became successful to have the family I desire for. God provide us with everything that we need He stays faithful towards us. We started a business and dedicate it in the name of our Lord and our God bless over it. After 5 years I love you more than ever.

After 10 years:

            I’ll still be happily married to you and more contented in life, blessed by God with another child and it is a boy. We still help and supported each other, we put into our life the Biblical teaching. We became successful in our endeavors but we remain as humble as possible we lead our family by example, our children grow well educated and properly mannered they are very active in God’s mission and ways. I see myself to make sure to be with the family each day, we became stronger each problem we solve together. We became more dependent in God. We cast our hope always to God. We still argue at times specially inside the house, specially the cleaning because you want all things in properly designated and it should be in their respective places. You hate to see an empty refrigerator; I make sure that we are together when we go to the market or even doing the grocery. We are taking care of your mommy, she adores our children. You learned to be aware of you speaking and action towards me in the presence of other people. I am very open to show people how much I love you but you are still so defensive because you are still shy. We make sure that we attend Sabbath Day together with our family. I’m still asking you for a date and I’m the one to pay from my allowance (remember the 20-25%). I look at you as the only beautiful woman around and still you look at me as corny.   

VIII.    PROBLEM AND SOLUTION

There are no such thing as smooth relationship, there will be times that we are bound to hurt each other unintentionally or intentionally (may our God forbid this to happen). Whatever the problem is SEPERATION IS NOT THE ANSWER.

I believe that there is no problem that we cannot solve together with the help of God’s intervention. Let us control our emotion when problem arises but with proper and peaceful dialog is very essential. We will go with the Biblical principle (Ephesian 4:26).

We will make sure that our communication is always open for each other and let us put into consideration the physical and emotional needs of each other. We must find ways that our communication is open even if our topic is out of this world anymore or there is no more topic to talk to. We must open up topics that will sustain our communication not only by one but also by the other participant, Sabbath Day is for our God it is dedicated for Him alone therefor communication will be held within every 6 days.  

Problems will just come and go we will just trust each other.

  

IX.       VOW

            I Robert Earl Nobong Guanco will uphold all statement above with the approval from you Isaeli Guindayan Luis. To love you dearly to stay faithful, loyal and honest in the sight of God. To spend the rest of my life with you while serving our God.

I will do the best of my capabilities to love and care for you whatever may lies ahead through the help of our God.

I will try to love you unconditionally.

I will accept you as who you are but also hoping that we will both change for the better.

I will laugh with you in times of joy, and comfort you in times of sorrow.

I will share in your dreams and support you as you strive to achieve your goals.

I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, and speak to you with encouragement. Together, let us build a home filled with learning, laughter and light, shared freely with all who may live there.

Let us be partners, friends and lovers, today and all of the days that follow.

 All of this will be in success together with your participation. To display my agreement below is my name and signature that this writing will be put into action if you give me this once in a lifetime chance. In this I vow.

Given this day of our Lord 27^th of May 2016. With God’s seal of approval.

Prepared by:                                                         Submitted to:

Mr. Robert Earl N. Guanco                               Ms. Isaeli G. Luis

     

THE RESULT AFTER THIS PROPOSAL WAS HANDED...

Thing to prepare in Entering Marriage Life or a Newly Wed Life

Thing to Prepare in Entering Marriage Life or a Newly Wed Life

Note: This are for majority of men who has this carefree attitude and doesn't put too much attention on details and has a wife or soon-to-be wife who has a compulsive behavior and a freak on details and have a very short electrical fuse on the head.

PART 1:

For Men who decide to settle everything in the near future (to be married)

1. Look under the sheet. 

My brother-in-arms please do not be captivated on how beautiful she is (because she really is beautiful in your eyes) I understand that those beauty can send a thousand ships but please do your homework first. Remember as we speak many men are suffering in their marriage life because they are deceive from the beginning because of outward beauty and there is nothing they can do about it anymore, they are already tied-up. Don't look only in what you see or what she wants you to see, but search and investigate it for yourself, always remember information is very, very important to your advantage. She can be a potential enemy after you tied up the knot or you can evade in those sticky situation or she can be a very good supportive wife. Remember divorce is a very expensive process and very emotional, for Christians, remember that God hates divorce. Remember majority of men are the one’s paying for the wedding wither it is expensive or not so save yourself a trouble and spend time or a little bit of research on your soon to be wife (if you really are).

2. Expect to see under the sheet. 

Please don’t believe on what you see on TV especially about celebrities speaking or giving advice about marriage they suck on that area, where else can you see that divorce sells like a hot pan cake? In show business of course.

So when you do your research please expect that you will find something that you don’t like about her remember no one is perfect. Women is like a product, don’t buy it because it has a glowing cover but instead read what’s behind that product, there you can see the instruction how to use, what different materials is used in the product, expiration date and where it was made, what I want you to understand is,  if you don’t know how your wife-to-be should be use, expect that you will have a messy life so read the instruction!. Your wife-to-be is a great product but made with some harmful materials, this materials are harmful in your health if directly taken without prescription, what I want to say is that when you look under the sheet you can find some behavior of her that you don’t like please expect about that do not be fooled my brother many of our brothers are lost because they are deceived so what I want you to do is list all the good things about your soon-to-be-wife and list also the things that you don’t like about her then compare, if the bad things are many than good things please reconsider or re-evaluate your decision you will be expecting a slow death, the feeling of hell on earth and all negative emotion you can think of. Next is expiration date, all humans has a fuse on each head and when that fuse is damage expect a wild and possessed lady the very same woman you want to tie up the knot, so please remember those times when your woman lose it and what are the reasons why they lose it. Next where it is made of, first im not judging okay but when your lady is made in a place (home) where love and joy abounds then that’s a good sign but when your lady is made in a hazardous environment it’s your call brother, it’s your call.

My brother I don’t want to put negativity in your mind or else there will be no suitable lady for you for no one is perfect  but what I want you to know is that in the end your measuring stick is LOVE itself for love overcomes all evil, when you already know the things that you don’t like about your wife-to-be you can put preventive or defensive measure to slide away from it and continue living together with her.

3. Mostly women hate carefree men (who just don’t care on things)

Being carefree is just a positive way of defining laziness, my brothers we also deceive ourselves if we think we are carefree but the truth it we are just lazy. It is our built-in mechanism in our mind that doesn’t accept things that put burden in us in a way of stress that’s why we just slide it away and women or your lady hates it too much if she can see you doing nothing about it and we reason it out because we have a carefree attitude. And this attitude show’s up more visibly after the marriage so do something about it we need to do our part also.

4. Once you enter, it is a one way road. 

I’m stating this on what the bible says, God hates divorce and adultery is not the answer. Many damage marriage life because of adultery and when you trace back what leads to adultery they will answer because they don’t understand there wife and someone understands them. So once you enter a married life it’s a oneway road and when everything went wrong all you can do about it is pray to God, that’s all what I can advise brother, pray for you wife and there is no harm in praying in advance about your wife-to-be God is merciful you know.

5. Peer pressure 

Please for heaven’s sake don’t let other people near you decide for yourself (directly or indirectly) spoken. Peer pressure is a very nasty thing it really affects you but put in mind that when things go wrongly it’s not them who will face it face front but YOU! When they start to bug you or annoy you just laugh it out and don’t be affected. You decide everything and not them. Timing is of the essence not the people around you.

6. Remove unwanted things. 

Remove, delete, erase all the bad residue of your past that is stuck in your facebook albums, cellphone memory, images stock, even scandals because women are way more better investigator than FBI or NBI combined together. This things can be used against you and pin you down.

7.  Finances 

Even if you deny it or not money plays a thing in a relationship. When you are still not married this is just a advice it’s up to you if you will follow, set aside an amount for emergency that you yourself know about and don’t tell about this to your lady, Why? Life is not a smooth sailing there will be storms, you hide this with a good motive as what commonly put in an emergency “emergency break glass” use this during only emergency you are soon-to-be the head of the family and it’s your responsibility to give money to your wife at whatever amount it is. Use only during emergency I repeat and not for your vices. When your lady ask you where you get the money during emergency? Just tell her you have a fail-safe plan.

8. Check and Balance your emotion 

If all the signs is in place and points to her direction, ask yourself are you ready to die for that lady? Are you willing to give your kidney if necessary. If you decide base on emotion remember emotion will just fade away but a vow will be a vow until the end of your breath in this world.

Marriage is a leap of faith for people and another chapter of your life. So plan it will while minding your current age , don’t get married if you are still young (character, behavior, self-centered decision, happy go lucky life, child minded, and etc.)  You will live in a dilemma for a long time until you cope up with reality. There is no specific success formula in marriage you find and do it yourself with the guidance of God.

Words to Express

I'm writing in behalf of my shouting heart.To control ones emotion is really hard specially when my personality is expressive and not a silent type, I want to express what is inside of me to lessen the rise of emotion, to whom there is no one I cant share of. Therefor if writing this will lessen this surge of feelings inside me then so be it. I am sure that it is not any ordinary feelings that i have and I am sure that this is genuine, truly waiting is a hard one but one must endure. its been too long that i want to write down this but I'm lost of words to express what is inside, truly love is so amazing your out of words to express. There is a fine lady to which this rise of emotion and feelings is the very reason im writing. There is something about her that really attracts me and I just dont know what is that. Its hard to be malambing to a person who is very conscious in behavior and changing of voice and used of flattery sets of words.(lambing voice) I just don't know if she is allergic to this romantic words or not accustom to this practices but still i cannot hide the fact that im still attractive to her. I love everything about her but her strong personality stands above all maybe this is due to the environment that i grow up with sorrounded by strong women.

what more that i want is how her mind works, i want to know her ideals, her reasoning about just anything even things that are just plain worthless topics, if i remember it correctly in the past i do research if she has a blog or anything that where she put here thoughts are but i cant find any. I would really like to hear her stories from the beginning to the current time, i want to absorb all of it but she remain a little bit aloof, and im sure she is more conscious on the set of words that im talking here rather than the thoughts that i would like to conceive to portray, or maybe in order to show here appreciation or lambing she do the opposite? or maybe she just like to bara me ( i dont know the words to use basta gusto nya sigurong barahin ako lagi) or maybe she has this sarcastic personality i just don't know. People might have a wrong interpretation about her behavior because maybe the world doesn't accept the way she is, they pattern everything in sweet gestures and melodramatic behavior but i cant help to not care at all.

I love to ask questions but there are times that im all out of questions, i want our talks to be long and productive but the way she is i cant even make halfway my lambing voice and then she cuts me off, i learn to be conscious as well to what i should speak to her but i fail miserably each time, there is an instance that I think i make here turn-off to me, that day im so afraid she didn't even talk to me for a week and and extra days more. but still i love her. I want to understand her, i want to get her support or im just too demanding for which i still don't have the right to demand for anything.

I cant help looking at her but i dont want this feeling to be lessen also. She got hold of the softest part of my heart, I pray for her, here family as well and i do really like her mother she is very opposite of her but it is not the mother that i like but still the daughter. there is no day that she left my thoughts it pops up her facial expression the way she is laughing, when she is serious but im still puzzle on how she do the expressionless face and her gesture on like nang-iirap and deadma lang. Hope she would understand my behavioral predicament this is who i am.

Maybe this is just to much to write for but this is what inside my heart as of the current time, unedited and no sentence structure or the worst thing it cannot even pass to any literature areas but i just don't care this heart of mine is written by a child who doesn't know how to write only knows how to doodle. 

A Really Weird Dream

everything is still visually clear in my mind, for a month now or more i just dream but when i woke up i already forgot what my dream is all about but this time it is different it is still vividly clear in my mind what I saw in my dream but I shall not speak into full details, I shall left behind some scenes that better for me to have knew alone. Each time I go to bed I make sure that I say my prayers, that night I'm sure my last prayer is that Lord if you may so kind if it is your will kindly give me someone who can be my partner for the rest of my life. That night is a very cold night and its around 8 degrees Celsius as i went to bed. I travel in the lightspeed highway of the dream world just like in the movies but i haven't seen any movies in a long time now. This is a really weird dream I dream that I feel in love with someone I knew which  have a model type body she is beautiful non the less but the weird part is that I feel in love with her in which in my dream she is a drug trader, all I knew is that she is not merely a small time dealer but international dealer. One scene is that I see 3 different nationalities sits around the table and they get this electronic device a black rectangular type in which 3 nationalities together with there body guards, 2 person each nationality. They place the device on the table and grab a bag of sample of it, if i am not mistaken a high grade newly develop cocaine, in a matter of instance they start pressing the button on the device like transferring an electronic money from each other and from the device it release a receipt imprinting a code of the transaction. They pass each others coupon and input the code to the black rectangular device, I can see the smirk on there faces meaning that the transfer is successful and out of nowhere they get the bag in which this new cocaine are stored. They get a small amount on it and each one of them started to inhale this drug just like doing a beer cheers. I am there seated looking at them as I look at her with an empty facial expression , I saw as if she is a hollow, then I feel asleep and I woke up suddenly in the same room but I see only the 3 nationals and there bodyguards on a high spirit due to the drug but I feel really weird in my body I feel that someone force me to take the new drug as I gaze upon each person there faces and built changes, I see monsters in them and the background changes to snow as I saw monsters on the snow. I stand and just like a drunk person I tried my hardest to put my self intact and in my mind is to find this girl I search for her and I found my self in this small passage way village and in the corner i see a waiting shed and in front of that I see her house, she is there staring  blankly into the window standing, I approach her and when she look at me she started crying and cursing she said Help me! Help me! Help me to get away from this (im thinking she means by his drug trade)she is pounding my chest as I held her close she is in tears still begging for help, she said I want to be free help me and she is cursing she said help me for fucking sake help me, I have no words of comfort that time but I just held her and kiss her forehead and her lips. and I woke up into the reality with a bewilder mind thinking that's a really weird dream.