Thing to Prepare in
Entering Marriage Life or a Newly Wed Life
Note: This are for
majority of men who has this carefree attitude and doesn't put too much
attention on details and has a wife or soon-to-be wife who has a compulsive
behavior and a freak on details and have a very short electrical fuse on the
head.
PART 1:
For Men who decide
to settle everything in the near future (to be married)
1. Look under the
sheet.
My brother-in-arms
please do not be captivated on how beautiful she is (because she really is
beautiful in your eyes) I understand that those beauty can send a thousand ships
but please do your homework first. Remember as we speak many men are suffering
in their marriage life because they are deceive from the beginning because of
outward beauty and there is nothing they can do about it anymore, they are
already tied-up. Don't look only in what you see or what she wants you to see,
but search and investigate it for yourself, always remember information is very,
very important to your advantage. She can be a potential enemy after you tied
up the knot or you can evade in those sticky situation or she can be a very
good supportive wife. Remember divorce is a very expensive process and very
emotional, for Christians, remember that God hates divorce. Remember majority
of men are the one’s paying for the wedding wither it is expensive or not so
save yourself a trouble and spend time or a little bit of research on your soon
to be wife (if you really are).
2. Expect to see
under the sheet.
Please don’t believe on
what you see on TV especially about celebrities speaking or giving advice about
marriage they suck on that area, where else can you see that divorce sells like
a hot pan cake? In show business of course.
So when you do your
research please expect that you will find something that you don’t like about
her remember no one is perfect. Women is like a product, don’t buy it because
it has a glowing cover but instead read what’s behind that product, there you
can see the instruction how to use, what different materials is used in the
product, expiration date and where it was made, what I want you to understand
is, if you don’t know how your
wife-to-be should be use, expect that you will have a messy life so read the
instruction!. Your wife-to-be is a great product but made with some harmful
materials, this materials are harmful in your health if directly taken without
prescription, what I want to say is that when you look under the sheet you can
find some behavior of her that you don’t like please expect about that do not
be fooled my brother many of our brothers are lost because they are deceived so
what I want you to do is list all the good things about your soon-to-be-wife
and list also the things that you don’t like about her then compare, if the bad
things are many than good things please reconsider or re-evaluate your decision
you will be expecting a slow death, the feeling of hell on earth and all
negative emotion you can think of. Next is expiration date, all humans has a
fuse on each head and when that fuse is damage expect a wild and possessed lady
the very same woman you want to tie up the knot, so please remember those times
when your woman lose it and what are the reasons why they lose it. Next where
it is made of, first im not judging okay but when your lady is made in a place
(home) where love and joy abounds then that’s a good sign but when your lady is
made in a hazardous environment it’s your call brother, it’s your call.
My brother I don’t want
to put negativity in your mind or else there will be no suitable lady for you
for no one is perfect but what I want
you to know is that in the end your measuring stick is LOVE itself for love
overcomes all evil, when you already know the things that you don’t like about
your wife-to-be you can put preventive or defensive measure to slide away from
it and continue living together with her.
3. Mostly women hate
carefree men (who just don’t care on things)
Being carefree is just
a positive way of defining laziness, my brothers we also deceive ourselves if
we think we are carefree but the truth it we are just lazy. It is our built-in
mechanism in our mind that doesn’t accept things that put burden in us in a way
of stress that’s why we just slide it away and women or your lady hates it too
much if she can see you doing nothing about it and we reason it out because we
have a carefree attitude. And this attitude show’s up more visibly after the
marriage so do something about it we need to do our part also.
4. Once you enter,
it is a one way road.
I’m stating this on
what the bible says, God hates divorce and adultery is not the answer. Many
damage marriage life because of adultery and when you trace back what leads to
adultery they will answer because they don’t understand there wife and someone
understands them. So once you enter a married life it’s a oneway road and when
everything went wrong all you can do about it is pray to God, that’s all what I
can advise brother, pray for you wife and there is no harm in praying in
advance about your wife-to-be God is merciful you know.
5. Peer pressure
Please for heaven’s
sake don’t let other people near you decide for yourself (directly or
indirectly) spoken. Peer pressure is a very nasty thing it really affects you
but put in mind that when things go wrongly it’s not them who will face it face
front but YOU! When they start to bug you or annoy you just laugh it out and
don’t be affected. You decide everything and not them. Timing is of the essence
not the people around you.
6. Remove unwanted
things.
Remove, delete, erase
all the bad residue of your past that is stuck in your facebook albums,
cellphone memory, images stock, even scandals because women are way more better
investigator than FBI or NBI combined together. This things can be used against
you and pin you down.
7. Finances
Even if you deny it or
not money plays a thing in a relationship. When you are still not married this
is just a advice it’s up to you if you will follow, set aside an amount for
emergency that you yourself know about and don’t tell about this to your lady,
Why? Life is not a smooth sailing there will be storms, you hide this with a
good motive as what commonly put in an emergency “emergency break glass” use
this during only emergency you are soon-to-be the head of the family and it’s
your responsibility to give money to your wife at whatever amount it is. Use only
during emergency I repeat and not for your vices. When your lady ask you where
you get the money during emergency? Just tell her you have a fail-safe plan.
8. Check and Balance
your emotion
If all the signs is in
place and points to her direction, ask yourself are you ready to die for that
lady? Are you willing to give your kidney if necessary. If you decide base on
emotion remember emotion will just fade away but a vow will be a vow until the
end of your breath in this world.
Marriage is a leap of
faith for people and another chapter of your life. So plan it will while
minding your current age , don’t get married if you are still young (character,
behavior, self-centered decision, happy go lucky life, child minded, and etc.) You will live in a dilemma for a long time
until you cope up with reality. There is no specific success formula in
marriage you find and do it yourself with the guidance of God.
