Thing to prepare in Entering Marriage Life or a Newly Wed Life

Thing to Prepare in Entering Marriage Life or a Newly Wed Life

Note: This are for majority of men who has this carefree attitude and doesn't put too much attention on details and has a wife or soon-to-be wife who has a compulsive behavior and a freak on details and have a very short electrical fuse on the head.

PART 1:

For Men who decide to settle everything in the near future (to be married)

1. Look under the sheet. 

My brother-in-arms please do not be captivated on how beautiful she is (because she really is beautiful in your eyes) I understand that those beauty can send a thousand ships but please do your homework first. Remember as we speak many men are suffering in their marriage life because they are deceive from the beginning because of outward beauty and there is nothing they can do about it anymore, they are already tied-up. Don't look only in what you see or what she wants you to see, but search and investigate it for yourself, always remember information is very, very important to your advantage. She can be a potential enemy after you tied up the knot or you can evade in those sticky situation or she can be a very good supportive wife. Remember divorce is a very expensive process and very emotional, for Christians, remember that God hates divorce. Remember majority of men are the one’s paying for the wedding wither it is expensive or not so save yourself a trouble and spend time or a little bit of research on your soon to be wife (if you really are).

2. Expect to see under the sheet. 

Please don’t believe on what you see on TV especially about celebrities speaking or giving advice about marriage they suck on that area, where else can you see that divorce sells like a hot pan cake? In show business of course.

So when you do your research please expect that you will find something that you don’t like about her remember no one is perfect. Women is like a product, don’t buy it because it has a glowing cover but instead read what’s behind that product, there you can see the instruction how to use, what different materials is used in the product, expiration date and where it was made, what I want you to understand is,  if you don’t know how your wife-to-be should be use, expect that you will have a messy life so read the instruction!. Your wife-to-be is a great product but made with some harmful materials, this materials are harmful in your health if directly taken without prescription, what I want to say is that when you look under the sheet you can find some behavior of her that you don’t like please expect about that do not be fooled my brother many of our brothers are lost because they are deceived so what I want you to do is list all the good things about your soon-to-be-wife and list also the things that you don’t like about her then compare, if the bad things are many than good things please reconsider or re-evaluate your decision you will be expecting a slow death, the feeling of hell on earth and all negative emotion you can think of. Next is expiration date, all humans has a fuse on each head and when that fuse is damage expect a wild and possessed lady the very same woman you want to tie up the knot, so please remember those times when your woman lose it and what are the reasons why they lose it. Next where it is made of, first im not judging okay but when your lady is made in a place (home) where love and joy abounds then that’s a good sign but when your lady is made in a hazardous environment it’s your call brother, it’s your call.

My brother I don’t want to put negativity in your mind or else there will be no suitable lady for you for no one is perfect  but what I want you to know is that in the end your measuring stick is LOVE itself for love overcomes all evil, when you already know the things that you don’t like about your wife-to-be you can put preventive or defensive measure to slide away from it and continue living together with her.

3. Mostly women hate carefree men (who just don’t care on things)

Being carefree is just a positive way of defining laziness, my brothers we also deceive ourselves if we think we are carefree but the truth it we are just lazy. It is our built-in mechanism in our mind that doesn’t accept things that put burden in us in a way of stress that’s why we just slide it away and women or your lady hates it too much if she can see you doing nothing about it and we reason it out because we have a carefree attitude. And this attitude show’s up more visibly after the marriage so do something about it we need to do our part also.

4. Once you enter, it is a one way road. 

I’m stating this on what the bible says, God hates divorce and adultery is not the answer. Many damage marriage life because of adultery and when you trace back what leads to adultery they will answer because they don’t understand there wife and someone understands them. So once you enter a married life it’s a oneway road and when everything went wrong all you can do about it is pray to God, that’s all what I can advise brother, pray for you wife and there is no harm in praying in advance about your wife-to-be God is merciful you know.

5. Peer pressure 

Please for heaven’s sake don’t let other people near you decide for yourself (directly or indirectly) spoken. Peer pressure is a very nasty thing it really affects you but put in mind that when things go wrongly it’s not them who will face it face front but YOU! When they start to bug you or annoy you just laugh it out and don’t be affected. You decide everything and not them. Timing is of the essence not the people around you.

6. Remove unwanted things. 

Remove, delete, erase all the bad residue of your past that is stuck in your facebook albums, cellphone memory, images stock, even scandals because women are way more better investigator than FBI or NBI combined together. This things can be used against you and pin you down.

7.  Finances 

Even if you deny it or not money plays a thing in a relationship. When you are still not married this is just a advice it’s up to you if you will follow, set aside an amount for emergency that you yourself know about and don’t tell about this to your lady, Why? Life is not a smooth sailing there will be storms, you hide this with a good motive as what commonly put in an emergency “emergency break glass” use this during only emergency you are soon-to-be the head of the family and it’s your responsibility to give money to your wife at whatever amount it is. Use only during emergency I repeat and not for your vices. When your lady ask you where you get the money during emergency? Just tell her you have a fail-safe plan.

8. Check and Balance your emotion 

If all the signs is in place and points to her direction, ask yourself are you ready to die for that lady? Are you willing to give your kidney if necessary. If you decide base on emotion remember emotion will just fade away but a vow will be a vow until the end of your breath in this world.

Marriage is a leap of faith for people and another chapter of your life. So plan it will while minding your current age , don’t get married if you are still young (character, behavior, self-centered decision, happy go lucky life, child minded, and etc.)  You will live in a dilemma for a long time until you cope up with reality. There is no specific success formula in marriage you find and do it yourself with the guidance of God.

Words to Express

I'm writing in behalf of my shouting heart.To control ones emotion is really hard specially when my personality is expressive and not a silent type, I want to express what is inside of me to lessen the rise of emotion, to whom there is no one I cant share of. Therefor if writing this will lessen this surge of feelings inside me then so be it. I am sure that it is not any ordinary feelings that i have and I am sure that this is genuine, truly waiting is a hard one but one must endure. its been too long that i want to write down this but I'm lost of words to express what is inside, truly love is so amazing your out of words to express. There is a fine lady to which this rise of emotion and feelings is the very reason im writing. There is something about her that really attracts me and I just dont know what is that. Its hard to be malambing to a person who is very conscious in behavior and changing of voice and used of flattery sets of words.(lambing voice) I just don't know if she is allergic to this romantic words or not accustom to this practices but still i cannot hide the fact that im still attractive to her. I love everything about her but her strong personality stands above all maybe this is due to the environment that i grow up with sorrounded by strong women.

what more that i want is how her mind works, i want to know her ideals, her reasoning about just anything even things that are just plain worthless topics, if i remember it correctly in the past i do research if she has a blog or anything that where she put here thoughts are but i cant find any. I would really like to hear her stories from the beginning to the current time, i want to absorb all of it but she remain a little bit aloof, and im sure she is more conscious on the set of words that im talking here rather than the thoughts that i would like to conceive to portray, or maybe in order to show here appreciation or lambing she do the opposite? or maybe she just like to bara me ( i dont know the words to use basta gusto nya sigurong barahin ako lagi) or maybe she has this sarcastic personality i just don't know. People might have a wrong interpretation about her behavior because maybe the world doesn't accept the way she is, they pattern everything in sweet gestures and melodramatic behavior but i cant help to not care at all.

I love to ask questions but there are times that im all out of questions, i want our talks to be long and productive but the way she is i cant even make halfway my lambing voice and then she cuts me off, i learn to be conscious as well to what i should speak to her but i fail miserably each time, there is an instance that I think i make here turn-off to me, that day im so afraid she didn't even talk to me for a week and and extra days more. but still i love her. I want to understand her, i want to get her support or im just too demanding for which i still don't have the right to demand for anything.

I cant help looking at her but i dont want this feeling to be lessen also. She got hold of the softest part of my heart, I pray for her, here family as well and i do really like her mother she is very opposite of her but it is not the mother that i like but still the daughter. there is no day that she left my thoughts it pops up her facial expression the way she is laughing, when she is serious but im still puzzle on how she do the expressionless face and her gesture on like nang-iirap and deadma lang. Hope she would understand my behavioral predicament this is who i am.

Maybe this is just to much to write for but this is what inside my heart as of the current time, unedited and no sentence structure or the worst thing it cannot even pass to any literature areas but i just don't care this heart of mine is written by a child who doesn't know how to write only knows how to doodle. 

A Really Weird Dream

everything is still visually clear in my mind, for a month now or more i just dream but when i woke up i already forgot what my dream is all about but this time it is different it is still vividly clear in my mind what I saw in my dream but I shall not speak into full details, I shall left behind some scenes that better for me to have knew alone. Each time I go to bed I make sure that I say my prayers, that night I'm sure my last prayer is that Lord if you may so kind if it is your will kindly give me someone who can be my partner for the rest of my life. That night is a very cold night and its around 8 degrees Celsius as i went to bed. I travel in the lightspeed highway of the dream world just like in the movies but i haven't seen any movies in a long time now. This is a really weird dream I dream that I feel in love with someone I knew which  have a model type body she is beautiful non the less but the weird part is that I feel in love with her in which in my dream she is a drug trader, all I knew is that she is not merely a small time dealer but international dealer. One scene is that I see 3 different nationalities sits around the table and they get this electronic device a black rectangular type in which 3 nationalities together with there body guards, 2 person each nationality. They place the device on the table and grab a bag of sample of it, if i am not mistaken a high grade newly develop cocaine, in a matter of instance they start pressing the button on the device like transferring an electronic money from each other and from the device it release a receipt imprinting a code of the transaction. They pass each others coupon and input the code to the black rectangular device, I can see the smirk on there faces meaning that the transfer is successful and out of nowhere they get the bag in which this new cocaine are stored. They get a small amount on it and each one of them started to inhale this drug just like doing a beer cheers. I am there seated looking at them as I look at her with an empty facial expression , I saw as if she is a hollow, then I feel asleep and I woke up suddenly in the same room but I see only the 3 nationals and there bodyguards on a high spirit due to the drug but I feel really weird in my body I feel that someone force me to take the new drug as I gaze upon each person there faces and built changes, I see monsters in them and the background changes to snow as I saw monsters on the snow. I stand and just like a drunk person I tried my hardest to put my self intact and in my mind is to find this girl I search for her and I found my self in this small passage way village and in the corner i see a waiting shed and in front of that I see her house, she is there staring  blankly into the window standing, I approach her and when she look at me she started crying and cursing she said Help me! Help me! Help me to get away from this (im thinking she means by his drug trade)she is pounding my chest as I held her close she is in tears still begging for help, she said I want to be free help me and she is cursing she said help me for fucking sake help me, I have no words of comfort that time but I just held her and kiss her forehead and her lips. and I woke up into the reality with a bewilder mind thinking that's a really weird dream. 

Ang Pagbagsak

Kwento ng aking dimatapos tapos na pag-ibig (kakarampot at kaperasong bahagi ng langit)

Napagpasyahan kong isulat nalamang ang mga pinagdadaanan ko at patuloy na pinagdadaanan patungkol sa pag-ibig na hindi ko hawak at hindi ko mapigilan. Naniniwala ako na ang pagtatagpong ito ay hindi lamang isang swerte dahil hindi ako naniniwala sa kahit anong swerte ito ay itinakda at kapalaran. Ang makilala siya ay isang kaparaanan ng Maykapal na hindi ninoman maabot at mababatid kong bakit at paano. Ang makilala siya ay tadhana, ang maging kaibigan nya ay ginusto ko ngunit ang pag-usbong ng pag-ibig ay hindi ko hawak.

Sumusulat ako para sa tanging rason na mailathala ang dinadanas sa kasalukuyan. Walang ibang matatakbuhan at mapagsasabihan kundi ang tanging Panginoon lamang. Kaibigan ay wala na ako dahil sila ay nakatira sa makamundong pag-iisip kung gusto kong sabihin sa kanila puro biro, walang tamang maibabahagi at higit sa lahat puro panlalait sa pamamagitan ng pagbibiro. Kung sa kapatid naman sa pananampalataya di ko batid kong ito bay abot o sakop ng kanilang pagkakaintindi. Napakapalad ng mga mananampalatayang nakatagpo na o kahit hindi mananampalataya nakahanap na ng kanilang kapares at higit sa lahat sa kanilang mga kumento sa isa’t-isa na parang wala ng ibang makakapaghiwalay sa kanila. Nakamasid at nasasaksihan ang mga bagay na pilit iniiwasan dahil ang sariling kaligayahan ay ngayong nagdududa kong ito’y makakamtan, sakit ng damdamin ay hindi maiwasan kalakip na siguro sa pagkatao kong puno ng kamalasan. Nagtatanong buhay pa ba kaya ang pusong ito? O durog na durog na sa mga nakalipas na puro pasakit ang dala, dumudulog sa Panginoon na may mabigat na damdamin, puro katanungan ang sinasambit kung bakit? Ngunit katahimikan ang kalakip.

Sumusulat ako sa pusong nagdurugo, sa mata’y wala ng luhang tumutulo, sa salita Niya’y ako’y kumakapit pero bilang isang tao ang kirot ay pilit kakapit. Sumusulat ako sa pagkataong seryoso at ngayon ko nababatid ang ng kukunti kung bakit naninibugho si Lolo Abraham ng sabihin ni Yahweh sa kanya na siya ang magiging ama ng napakaraming anak ngunit sa kapanahunan na iyon ni isa wala siya. Kung ako may nakahanap ng pabor sa paningin ni Yahweh at sinasabi na ito’y sa hinaharap mangyayari hanggang kilan ako magtitiis hanggang kelan ako maghihintay… sa bawat basa ko sa salita nya hindi ko maiwasang hindi magmasid na may pagka-inggit sa mga sinugo nya at kung makapagbiro naman ang mundo ay halos lahat ng makikita o di kaya parang nananadya talagang ikaw ay saktan sa damdamin na halos makikita mo’y quotes of love dito pictures of lovers dito video kili-kilig moments dyan.

Isang bahagi ang nawalay sa akin pero nawa sa habag nya at awa wag nawa Nyang ipahuntulot na pati ang buhay ko’y mawala magpakailanman.

Out of Proportion

When things are on joyful moments with bountiful amount of inspiration things are going down easy. Woke up each day with a new hope to dream-off and smile that’s been in this face ever since everything is going on to the light, but light has been shattered it recoils back to its void space where time stops. Motivation and small amount of hope vanish in thin air. With a weak knees, this self falls down and shed tears to the Almighty Creator, within this lips no others words to speak but a question “Why?” with a pounded heart it beats like nothing before, blood rushing in and out this veins, like a superhighway were cars goes to its speed limits. To be calm is not an option but here with a weak body for 4 days with no food to eat, fasted so that this request may granted but to no avail, failure comes knocking on my front door. My mind stops working, it automatically turn off to stop the damage intake but the heart receive all the reality.

When things all run out, all I have left is words, I have failed to hear my God’s voice, silence echoes in my mind as the hands of darkness reached through me grabs every limbs of my body yet I struggle, I beg to my God to save me from this emotion, save me from destruction. I ask “Am I not enough?, why such fate falls unto me? I ask with full of hope yet failed?” for the first time I felt a phobia on love. I sit, I stand, I kneel and I walk in and out with a heavy burden, the air in my room feels so heavy and filled with questions of regret and frustration, until I’m so weak to continue and lie down the bed, still this tears keeps on flowing down until I fell in deep slumber.

I eat bitterly the next day still picking up the pieces that shattered from unbearable shock with tears falls on my plate. I ate a spoonful of sorrow.

Questions

How can a broken pieces be mended?

how can suffering and pain be ended?

How can past mistakes be amended?

in my thoughts questions are suspended

What shall I speak in my confession?

What should I do to show affection?

What is this fear of rejection?

Uncertainty revolves in motion

Where to ask for guidance?

Where to hold on for assurance?

Where to seek for alligence?

I knock on the door for assistance

When shall an Apol fall on a tree?

When shall the perfect time be?

When will it be into reality?

waiting with hopeful possibility

Why do wall so thick and tall?

Why does past be so hurtful?

Why do I love and still be joyful?

to God I beg to answer my call.

Paghanga

(Original Composition not Edited)

Nakatunganga at nagiisip sa mga bagay bagay na hindi naman maabot. Sa mga nakalipas na may mga hatid na aral mga pasakit na nagmamarka ng sugat ng kahapon. Ako’y kasalukuyang nasa opisina ngunit ang isip ko’y nasa pagmamay-ari ng iba, napupuno ng hiwaga at kagalakan dulo’t ng pag-ibig na hindi maipagsigawan. Sa likod ng aking isipan ay ikaw ay hinahanap, tunay ngang hindi mapipigilan ang puso pag tumibok na ngunit nananaig ang desisyong may mas mahalaga pa kesa sa sariling kagustuhan. Nagtiis at nagpipigil dahil ang lahat ay maykapanahunan, akala ko’y hindi na ako iibig pa ngunit ang akala’y hindi pala, pinilit kong ituon ang aking isipan at pagtingin sa Panginoon at ang hiwaga ng pag-ibig ay aking naintindihan, malayong malayo sa estilo at pagtuturo ng mundo, kaya pala walang nagtatagal sa kapanahunan ngayon dahil mali ang turo at pakikitungo sa taong iniirog. Nagpatuloy akong mag-aral at naliwanagan  sa turo ng Amang nasa langit ay aking naintindihan, ang pag-ibig palay hindi pang-dalawahan lamang kundi pang-tatluhan kasama Siya na may akda ng pag-ibig. Kay sarap isipin ang proseso ng pagmamahal at dapat ngang unahing hanapin ang kapanatagan ng sarili sa Kanya at siya na aking Panginoon ay magbibigay ng kanyang anak na mahalaga sa kanya, isang prinsisa na binago Niya.

Dito ko nalamang isusulat ang mga bagay nanasa aking isipan, sa lugar na ikaw, ako at ang Ama ang may alam. Hindi ko man alam ang iyong nakaraan ngunit, nararamdaman kong ang bigat ng iyong sugat at sa panahon parin ngayon ay di pa tapos ang Panginoon sa pag susulsi sa puso mong may biak. Alam kong nagging malaki ang epekto nito sa pagbabago sa pakikitungo mo sa mga lalaki at hindi ko rin mabatid na may mga Lalaki naming nag-iingat para maitaas ang respeto at hindi maidamay ang mga lalaking tapat, ngunit iba na talaga ngayon, tanging ang Panginoon nalamang ang makakagabay sa taong para sa iyo. Iniisip ko ano man ang dangatan nito ay maykagalakan akong natoto akong magmahal ng hindi inuuna ang sariling kagustuhan kundi ang paglago para sa Ama. Hindi pala sa padalus-dalus na paraan ito nagiging epektibo kundi ang pagbabago muna ng Ama sa isang nilalang na magiging kabagay mo at mag-iingat na maykasamang takot sa Kanya. Napagkakasya ko nalamang ang aking paghanga sa iyo sa aking isipan kasama ng dasal na naway maging karapatdapat para sa iyo. Mahirap itago sa puso ang mga bagay na taon ang pagpipigil.

Sa mga salita ay hindi ka na ata naniniwala sa mga pakikitungo at pagpaparamdam ng ibang kalalakihan makuha lamang ang iyong atensyun. Mahirap man makipagsabayan ngunit nakapako na sa aking isipan na ika’y ligawan. Masaya akong dahan-dahan ng nagiging maliwanag ang nakatago ng lihim at naghihintay nalamang ng tamang nalalapit na mga araw. Isang kang babaeng dapat hangaan sa iyong paninidigan at katayuan lalo na sa espiritwal na aspeto ang pagmamahal mo at pakikitungo sa Ama. Dito ko nalamang sinusulat baka ma overheat ang aking isipan dahil sa pagsusulat nalamang maibsan itong naguumapaw na nararamdaman, pagpasenxahan muna Ate Apol sa iyo ako’y humahanga lamang.