MY PROPOSAL
By : Robert Earl N. Guanco
Submitted to:
Ms. Isaeli G. Luis
TABLE OF CONTENT
I. Introduction -
3
II. Intentions -
4
III. Life Goals -
4
IV. Sustainability -
5
V. Financial -
6
VI. Spiritual Needs -
7
VII. Family Plans -
8
VIII. Problem and Solution -
9
IX. Vow -
10
I.
INTRODUCTION
I am Mr. Robert Earl Nobong Guanco, the sole
purpose of this writing is to show you Ms.
Isaeli Guindayan Luis my personal plans and goal in the future if
given a once in a lifetime chance not only to be your boyfriend but to be your
partner in the near future.
Let this be clear and put into words that I don’t have any capacity
to see the future nor I can be certain of what is ahead, but I only have plans
and I strongly rely upon the guidance and help of my God.
This is to establish my clear and clean intention and motives to
Ms. Luis that I don’t have any sort of ill will towards you but only happiness
I can offer.
This writings covered different areas to which I think are
important for you to know, I will try my hardest that whatever is written
beyond this point I will do it.
From the preaching of God that He uses Pastor Danny Aurellano that very
Sabbath day, He stated that all of Christian men who would like to woo or court
any Christian woman should submit their written plans and his goals, it will
put the mind of that woman at ease because that man has a goal or direction to
which they will go together and support his plans. Love without plans or
insight in the future is like walking blindly together.
To make it clear also, I don’t want to walk the path dragging you
behind or forcefully drag you to any direction, it is much more better to walk
together side by side while holding each other’s hands. I don’t consider myself
higher than you do or compete in any situation in your life but what I want is
someone who supports me and I am to you also. Loyalty, respect, understanding,
patient and all godly qualities we may show together to have a decent, peaceful
and blissful relationship.
II. INTENTIONS
I pray to God that He may give you
to me and take care of you. It is my duty and responsibility if given a chance
by your approval to take care of you in every important aspect of your life. My
intention is to be your boyfriend and hoping to be your future partner in life if
God willing. I don’t have any plans or inflict any harm against you for it is a
violation in any moral values and Christian teachings. If God looks at you as
special and very important I will also do.
I cannot promise you heaven but
within my capacity, mental and emotional to somehow give you as near as paradise
with your help and participation also.
III. LIFE GOALS
It
is my strong desire to establish a Christian family to where a family is Christ
centered who live in Christian teachings and principles, I want to raise up a
relationship who relies and trust our God in any areas of our relationship. I
want a close knit family who supports each other, build up each other and
children who serves our God.
To break down my life goals in every
areas of my participation as of follows:
1.
Boyfriend - It starts from here, my goal is to be your helping hands in times
when you need physical, emotional and spiritual help. To protect you against
people including me and even from yourself even if hurts you sometimes. I like
to be the first person to whom you can count for as possible as I can. My goal
is to be your boyfriend to nurture and take care of your welfare to understand
you and not to criticize in moral ways. My goal also is to develop an
environment to further enhance your potentials in any part of your life in
accordance in Christian teaching, you have my support I’ll be your number 1
fan. It is my desire to have a loving relationship with you. My goal is to be
your last boyfriend.
2.
Husband - As a husband my goal is to secure the
welfare of my wife to treat you well in accordance of Biblical teaching as a
husband. To love you not only in your good side but also to accept your
weakness and be the second of your strength for God is the first. To do my
obligation as a husband in every areas of our relationship. To stay loyal,
honest, and protective, to lead with humility, courageous, a good provider as
possible as I can, spiritual leader and a loving husband. My goal is to be the
best husband.
3.
Father - My goal as a
father is to have at least 2 to 3 healthy children. To guide my children in
this crazy world in the ways of God intended for every Christian family. To be
a leader as example for them, to nurture them to grow as a good children up to
the end of my breath. To be with my children physically as possible as I can
and not to neglect there needs in every areas of their growing life, to treat
them equally with unconditional love and discipline. My goal is to be the best
father.
4.
Son in law - Your mother will be my mother, my goal is to show respect and
love to her the way you love her also. To support your mother in any possible
way as I can, my goal is to treat her well the same as I treat my biological mother.
My goal is to be a best and understanding Son in law.
5.
Brother in law – whatever
your decision and request in regarding to your brothers you have my full
support. My goal is to have a good relationship with your brothers to
understand them at makisama. My Goal is to be a good brother in law.
IV. SUSTAINABILITY
3 Categories as of follows:
1.
Physical Sustainability – it
is my duty to watch over your physical health, to be your extra pair of hands
and feet. When your physical strength will fail you I’ll be there I’ll do my
best to be there even if you reject me. If it is needed to give a part of me even
a piece of my internal organ I will give without question.
2.
Emotional Sustainability – I
cannot promise you that I will not hurt you because it is impossible but one
thing I can assure you is ill be very careful not to hurt you and protect you
against myself. It is my duty to see that you are emotionally stable. There
will be times that I cannot understand you or you don’t understand yourself
emotionally rest assured that I’ll be at your side whatever happens.
3.
Spiritual Sustainability – It
is very important that you and I will always be in the service of God and in
His house, to stay firm and strong in faith in good times and bad times
together. We shall not depart from God to sustain our spiritual life.
V. FINANCIAL
As possible as I can
with my strength through mercy and grace of our God I will be the second provider
of your needs for God is the first provider for us, I will
also consider your wants if it is useful and beneficial.
a.
I
give you the freedom if you want to work or not to support the needs of our
family.
b.
Whatever
is mine is yours and whatever is yours is mine also.
c.
Our
family must learn to save.
d.
Financial
should not control us but it is us who control the financial.
e.
We
should have a concrete plans regarding financial and ready to change strategy
if allows to.
f.
If
we are both working we must tithe first to where we are spiritually
eating.
g.
After
Tithing, if we are earning separately (working differently) we should have at
least 25% each for our personal allowance, you and I have the freedom to where
you will use it. If only one is working we are entitled to have at least 20% or
depend in our peaceful negotiation.
h.
If
one is working (you or me) will automatically tithe first from your salary and
the other one will tithe base on your allowance. (if not clear just ask me)
i.
The
remaining 80 or 75% will go to savings for daily and future needs.
j.
This
are the coverage of the savings is stated as follows:
1.
Basic
needs of our family. (It is your duty to evaluate the basic needs of the
family)
2.
Savings
in case of emergency or future needs arises.
3.
Education
of the Children (effective immediately with or without children yet)
4.
Necessary
projects (e.g. land, house, business and any productive things that can show
productivity)
5.
Family
Health (insurance, medication, hospitalization and etc…)
6.
1st
degree Family help concerns (Mother, Father, Mother in law, Sister, Brothers,
Brother in laws, Grandfather and Grandmother)
7.
Miscellaneous
(agreed by you and me to where it will be used)
k.
Breakdown
on savings and its percentage allocation.
1.
Basic
needs of our family = (___%) (Base on your assessment).
2.
Savings
in case of emergency or future needs arises = 20% no children yet, 15% when
there are children already.
3.
Education
of the Children = 10% no children yet, 20% when there are children already.
4.
Necessary
projects = 10%
5.
Family
Health = 15%
6.
1st
degree Family help concerns = 5 – 10%
7.
Miscellaneous
= 5 – 10%
l.
Whatever
is left in the Miscellaneous after 5 years will automatically be added to the
Savings in case of emergency or future needs arises and start all over again.
m.
The
percentage distribution can be change depending on the current situation as
long as it is agreed by you and me in peaceful negotiation.
n.
It
is our duty to teach our children to save from early age.
o.
All of this will automatically starts after the wedding up to the
last of our capacity to generate an earning.
p.
All this budgeting and safe keeping will be automatically in your
care.
q.
If
during the time that we are still not in relationship and you or I have already
a personal savings, it will not be counted, this financial agreement is
applicable during the start of our relationship. But it doesn’t mean that we
will not share for each other, it’s up to our respective decision.
r.
If
there are Bonuses or overtime pay 40% will be automatically be given to Family
savings and the remaining 60% will be for ourselves. But it doesn’t mean that
we will not share for each other, it’s up to our respective decision through peaceful
negotiation.
s.
If
argument or heated argument arises in financial or other areas SEPERATION IS
NOT AN OPTION I repeat again SEPERATION IS NOT AN OPTION!. It will
be dealt through peaceful negotiation.
t.
Everything
stated above can be amended with the
proper agreement.
u.
If
there will be business we should draft a financial outline on how to properly
manage it and how to distribute it accordingly.
v.
In
all circumstances we must put God first for we don’t have the capacity to earn
our living but through the mercy and grace of our God.
VI. SPIRITUAL NEEDS
We
are born through God in His church PJWM, therefor with all our capacity we will
remain in His church. His vision and mission will be our vision and mission
also, there will be no argument pertaining to God’s vision and mission and we
must involve ourselves in it. Our goal is to go together with our family in
entering God’s Kingdom full of hope someday.
Let us always remember how God called
and change us and bind us together therefor there will be no reason that we
will depart from it. If one will fell weak the other should be his/her strength
as what the Bible teachings are. We will not leave each other but uphold with
loving kindness. We should support each other’s calling and as possible as it
is we should be together and not be separated through thick and thin we will
serve God.
We should watch each other,
strengthen each other spiritually and if rebuke will arise let us accept it and
deal with it. We must put into great importance the spiritual needs of each
other.
If it’s God’s will that we will be
temporarily separated due to mission or work, we must REMAIN FAITHFUL at
all cost. We will do our best with prayers that we must be together again.
Let us be wise enough to balance our
Family needs and Spiritual needs, before casting our decision we must ask God
first through Prayer and Fasting if necessary. It is our duty to see the growth
of each other and the children spiritually.
VII. FAMILY PLANS
We
must base and plan our family in accordance of Biblical principle. It will be
participated by all members of the family. I may be the father of the household
but your voice is very important also, this is not dictatorship but a
relationship supporting each other. All family plans should be prayed over so
that the guidance of God will be with our family plans. It is a must to have a
bible study in our household.
As what stated before I desire 2 to
3 children and your participation is very badly needed (do not laugh please).
If deciding where to live we will go the place God wants us to live, God will
direct us to where we will be. There will be no hard feelings for each other
but value each other opinion and decision regarding the welfare of the family.
As
what you requested that I may answer this question What will I be after 5
years? After 10 years? Below is my answer.
After
5 years:
Ill be happily married to you,
blessed by God with 2 children a son and daughter. I see myself as a loving
husband and a kind father. Guiding our children in God’s ways. We are together
serving the Lord. We learned to be contented in whatever we have. There are
times that we will misunderstood each other but we make sure that pride will
not envelop our emotions. There will be struggles from the beginning but we
pass through it with flying colors. I’m still sweet towards you but you still
find it corny, but deep inside you, you are happy and blissful. We became successful to have the family I desire
for. God provide us with everything that we need He stays faithful towards us.
We started a business and dedicate it in the name of our Lord and our God bless
over it. After 5 years I love you more than ever.
After
10 years:
I’ll still be happily married to you
and more contented in life, blessed by God with another child and it is a boy.
We still help and supported each other, we put into our life the Biblical
teaching. We became successful in our endeavors but we remain as humble as
possible we lead our family by example, our children grow well educated and
properly mannered they are very active in God’s mission and ways. I see myself
to make sure to be with the family each day, we became stronger each problem we
solve together. We became more dependent in God. We cast our hope always to
God. We still argue at times specially inside the house, specially the cleaning
because you want all things in properly designated and it should be in their
respective places. You hate to see an empty refrigerator; I make sure that we
are together when we go to the market or even doing the grocery. We are taking
care of your mommy, she adores our children. You learned to be aware of you
speaking and action towards me in the presence of other people. I am very open
to show people how much I love you but you are still so defensive because you
are still shy. We make sure that we attend Sabbath Day together with our
family. I’m still asking you for a date and I’m the one to pay from my
allowance (remember the 20-25%). I look at you as the only beautiful woman
around and still you look at me as corny.
VIII. PROBLEM AND SOLUTION
There
are no such thing as smooth relationship, there will be times that we are bound
to hurt each other unintentionally or intentionally (may our God forbid this to
happen). Whatever the problem is SEPERATION IS NOT THE ANSWER.
I
believe that there is no problem that we cannot solve together with the help of
God’s intervention. Let us control our emotion when problem arises but with
proper and peaceful dialog is very essential. We will go with the Biblical
principle (Ephesian 4:26).
We
will make sure that our communication is always open for each other and let us
put into consideration the physical and emotional needs of each other. We must
find ways that our communication is open even if our topic is out of this world
anymore or there is no more topic to talk to. We must open up topics that will
sustain our communication not only by one but also by the other participant, Sabbath
Day is for our God it is dedicated for Him alone therefor communication
will be held within every 6 days.
Problems
will just come and go we will just trust each other.
IX. VOW
I Robert Earl Nobong Guanco
will uphold all statement above with the approval from you Isaeli
Guindayan Luis. To love you dearly to stay faithful, loyal and honest
in the sight of God. To spend the rest of my life with you while serving our
God.
I
will do the best of my capabilities to love and care for you whatever may lies
ahead through the help of our God.
I
will try to love you unconditionally.
I
will accept you as who you are but also hoping that we will both change for the
better.
I
will laugh with you in times of joy, and comfort you in times of sorrow.
I
will share in your dreams and support you as you strive to achieve your goals.
I
will listen to you with compassion and understanding, and speak to you with
encouragement. Together, let us build a home filled with learning, laughter and
light, shared freely with all who may live there.
Let
us be partners, friends and lovers, today and all of the days that follow.
All of this will be in success together with
your participation. To display my agreement below is my name and signature that
this writing will be put into action if you give me this once in a lifetime
chance. In this I vow.
Given
this day of our Lord 27th of May 2016. With God’s seal of approval.
Prepared
by: Submitted to:
Mr.
Robert Earl N. Guanco Ms.
Isaeli G. Luis
THE RESULT AFTER THIS PROPOSAL WAS HANDED...
